KAIDO KUBRi

How this book came to be

This book is the best combination of

insights, quotes, tools, techniques from 

25 years of experience of working with people.

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It started with 7 summers of

door-to-door sales in US as a student,

knocking on total of over 20k doors, 

followed by 15 years working with 500+ students/yearly,

same time starting training business,

where now have done 3000+ one-on-one coachings

and training sessions to 10k+ participants.

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The best moments, that I have enjoyed the most

during this journey, 

have been the small, but impactful

moments of understanding.

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The moment, when someone suddenly understands

the viewpoint of their partner better,

understands their kids, family better,

understands their team, boss, clients better.

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And the best moment of all -

when someone suddenly understands

themselves a little bit better.

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When suddenly something clicks. 

Something makes sense.

Something, that has been a burden for their whole life,

suddenly simply falls away.

Clarity appears, where there has been confusion.

Peace of mind appears, where there has been guilt,

beating oneself up and making self wrong.

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These moments are usually not loud.

If anything, they often arrive with complete silence.

Where I look at this person

and this person looks at me,

we both just smile,

and we both know,

that something has changed.

Something has shifted in a fundamental way.

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And nothing more needs to be said.

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For years I have wanted to somehow

capture these moments

so that they could be shared with more people -

but all this knowledge seemed too chaotic and

scattered in my mind.

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By the end of 2025 I had used my AI assistant 

for over half a year and I decided to give it

my first book, my training session notes,

my recordings, all my random notes, 

that have helped me

during one-on-one work through the years..

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And when it was all there and

AI assistant had done it's work,

the common denominator

of all my work was clear - reducing self-abuse.

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If there is one thing, that consistently happens

during my training and coaching sessions, 

is that people like themselves at least a little bit better

by simply removing some kind of self-abuse.

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This book includes all different ways

how we self-abuse ourselves and 

provides simple anyone-can-do-it methods

to start liking yourself a little better.

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And the more we like ourselves,

the more manageable will be everything around us,

let it be our partners, kids, parents,

or co-workers, bosses, clients.

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If you have read this far,

I invite you to read at least the Free Download

that includes intro, first chapter

and Self-Abuse Typology Test.​

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Even if this book is not for you at this time,

I'm sure, that at least a couple of people's names

will pop into your mind,

who you will want to send this immediately​​​.

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This e-book helps you to:

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✔ Notice where you are quietly working against yourself
✔ Understand why it happens — without blaming yourself
✔ Have simple ways to stop it in real-life moments
✔ Feel a little more calm, clear, and in control
✔ Start liking yourself… just a little bit more